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Dan Koe
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Why it's so damn hard to change your life
Most people, even though they don't know it, are asleep. They're born asleep, they live asleep, they marry in their sleep, they breed children in their sleep, they die in their sleep without ever waking up. – Anthony De Mello
People are living on autopilot. Everyone was assigned goals by society as a child. Goals require a system to be achieved. A system takes trial and error to become efficient.
You had the biological goals of walking, talking, and speaking to survive. As simple as they are for you now, that wasn't always the case. Your mind received negative feedback from your environment, which led to those systems becoming efficient to achieve your goal of surviving.
Your parents either scolded you or pointed you in the right direction when you made a mistake. You started crawling, then stumbling around, then walking like a toddler with little balance, and now you can hopefully walk like an Olympic gold medalist can flip through the air and stick the landing – because they practiced achieving that goal long enough.
Learning to walk is just the start.
What about the goals of going to school, getting a high-paying job, and retiring at an age where you have little time left to enjoy your life?
Society as we know it is a system with the goal of creating useful workers and obedient citizens, because without them, the authorities and rulers would lose power.
Those are the 3 big goals – school, job, retire – that they injected into your mind right when you learned to comprehend the language you speak.
99% of people only see the 1% of reality that reinforces their beliefs and helps them achieve those goals. Much of their zest for life is extinguished by 25 years old.
99% of people are learning the skills and conditioning their minds to live a mediocre life, and they don't even know it.
The masses are being shepherded to an unfulfilling life because the systems that compose their mind, identity, perspective, and perception are becoming more efficient as they age.
A realization people often make too late:
Success is not planned, it is automatic.
Successful people – whether they were conscious of it or not – had a mind that was programmed to achieve the goals that led to their success.
Here's how you dissect your mind and reprogram it to become the highest version of yourself.
Your identity is not who you are, it's a collection of survival strategies.
In last week's letter, I promised that I would write about the core psychological mechanisms that keep people trapped in a low-consciousness state.
That letter was about ideology, and we broke down:
In HUMAN 3.0, I mapped human development across four fundamental dimensions (mind, body, spirit, vocation).
My goal with HUMAN 3.0 was to provide a model for becoming the most developed version of yourself. Multidimensionally jacked, let's say, rather than becoming overexposed to one domain, leading to unconscious problems in others (like a businessman who lacks meaning or a mystic with a frail body).
To create this model, I pulled from flow and performance science, various philosophical schools of thought, and developmental psychology research from Clare Graves which turned into Spiral Dynamics, Susanne Cooke Greuter's 9 stages of ego development, Maslow's hierarchy which shows that higher needs emerge once lower needs are satisfied, and Ken Wilber's AQAL model that orients generalizations, creating a useful, non-dogmatic theory of everything.
Here's the key problem that we're here to talk about:
If you don't expand your consciousness (in other words, develop your mind, body, spirit, and vocation) your life will be unnecessarily difficult and painful.
You'll wake up being 50 years old with the psychology of a 14 year old going through an emotional puberty, always reacting to problems and never being able to solve them. And thanks to the digital and physical modern environment, you end up addicted, overweight, broke, purposeless, and bitter.
Since ~80-90% of the world are at lower levels of development, this creates a low consciousness collective where nobody wants to actually solve problems, they simply want to fight until the other side loses.
Ideology, as discussed in the last letter, is one mechanism keeping most people trapped in this destructive state.
Survival, on the other hand, is the root of it all.
[Body continues with: Your ego is a collection of survival strategies; Why it's so damn hard to change your life (house remodel metaphor); The Mastery Method 7 steps: Expand Your Mind, A Hierarchy Of Goals, How To Learn (build projects, learn just-in-time), Skills Are Groups Of Techniques, Reinvent Yourself, Nature's Compass (mistakes as feedback), Self-Experimentation Solves Problems — full text in source]
Thank you for reading.
Until next week,
Dan
Dan Koe
@thedankoe · Self-improvement / One-person business
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